The
plaintiff wife issued summons out of this court on 5 August 2010
seeking a decree of divorce on the grounds that the marriage
relationship between her and the defendant husband has irretrievably
broken down. In her claim, the plaintiff wife sought an order in
respect of the then two minor children, maintenance in respect ...
The
plaintiff wife issued summons out of this court on 5 August 2010
seeking a decree of divorce on the grounds that the marriage
relationship between her and the defendant husband has irretrievably
broken down. In her claim, the plaintiff wife sought an order in
respect of the then two minor children, maintenance in respect of
those two minor children and herself, and the division or sharing of
the assets of the parties….,.
In
her declaration, the plaintiff outlined a number of reasons as to why
the marriage relationship between the parties has irretrievably
broken down placing all the blame on the defendant's shoulders.
These reasons include the following;
(i)
That the defendant consumes liquor to excess at the distress of the
plaintiff.
(ii)
That the defendant has ill-treated the plaintiff in a controlling,
selfish, abusive, belittling and humiliating manner both in private
and public.
(iii)
That the defendant has neglected the plaintiff in favour of his own
recreational pursuits to the distress of the plaintiff.
(iv)
That the defendant has acted in an improper and inappropriate manner
with other women.
(v)
That the parties have been living separately from one another since
February 2010 and that the plaintiff has no intention of restoring
cohabitation to the defendant.
(vi)
That the plaintiff believes both parties have lost love, affection,
and respect for each other and that divorce is the only option….,.
In
his plea and counterclaim, filed on 5 October 2010, the defendant
accepted that the marriage relationship with the plaintiff has
irretrievably broken down but denied that he is responsible. Instead,
he blamed the plaintiff and outlined the following reasons;
(a)
That, throughout the marriage, the plaintiff has improperly
associated with other men.
(b)
That the plaintiff has failed to treat the defendant with love,
respect, support, intimacy, companionship and friendship as is
expected between husband and wife.
(c)
That the plaintiff has been very abusive, both physically and
emotionally, towards both the defendant and the children of the
marriage to the extent that the children do not want to be near her.
(d)
That the plaintiff is in the habit of snorting strong intoxicating
drugs whose effects has seriously affected the marriage….,.
In
terms of the joint Pre-trial Conference Minute dated 14 June 2011,
the following issues were referred to trial;
“The
issues for trial were agreed as follows:-
2.1
To whom should custody of the minor children be awarded.
2.2
If plaintiff is awarded custody of the minor children;
2.2.1
What is the proper level of maintenance by defendant in respect of
the minor children.
2.2.2
Should plaintiff be permitted to reside with minor children in the
former matrimonial home.
2.3
Is defendant obliged to pay personal maintenance to plaintiff, and,
if so, to what extent and for what period.
2.4
What constitutes the marital estate.
2.5
What order should be made in respect of the proprieritary matters.”
The
following admissions were made;
“4
ADMISIONS MADE
4.1
The marriage has irretrievably broken down.
4.2
Plaintiff should be entitled to have, as her sole property, all
household movables, save that if defendant is awarded custody of the
minor children, that he shall retain the remaining TV and stereo, and
one of the 2 following items, being a lounge suite and a dining room
suite.”…,.
Exhibit
9(a) – (e) are e-mails dated 28 January 2013 between the plaintiff
and members of Triathlon Club. They were produced by the plaintiff to
rebut the defendant's allegation that the plaintiff drank beer and
associated with various men….,.
Exhibit
12 is a Protection Order DV489/10, dated 18 August 2010, granted
against both parties by the Magistrates Court. It simply reinforces
the undisputed fact that the marriage relationship between the
parties has irretrievably broken down.
I
now turn to the issues to be resolved by the court.
Breakdown
of the Marriage
Both
the plaintiff and the defendant gave detailed evidence outlining the
experiences they had in their turbulent marriage. They married each
other at the young age of 19 years, and, initially, they enjoyed a
normal marriage relationship characterised by love, care, and
affection. They complimented each other in their business endeavours.
As
time progressed, the parties lost each other and they blame each
other for the breakdown of the marriage.
In
her evidence, the plaintiff alluded to the reasons outlined in the
declaration for the breakdown of the marriage. She testified that the
defendant is a heavy drinker since 2001, and, generally, would come
home late hence playing no role in the upbringing of the children.
The plaintiff said the defendant, with time, developed to be very
inconsiderate, selfish, and had no respect for her views. She said
the defendant resorted to physical abuse by assaulting her and showed
no love or affection as he would consistently rebuke her about her
weight. According to the plaintiff, what broke the camel's back was
the defendant's adulterous affair with their employee, one Tamara
Forbes, since 2009 to date. This resulted in their separation in
February 2010. The plaintiff is of the view that there is no
possibility of reconciliation at all.
Under
cross-examination, the plaintiff denied the allegations made against
her by the defendant. The plaintiff admitted being intimate with one
Martin Midler, a family friend, in June 2012, two years after her
separation from the defendant. She denied that she associated with
any other men or that she was intimate with Martin Midler during the
marriage.
I
agree with the plaintiff in this regard because even on the evidence
of the affair between the plaintiff and Martin Midler produced before
the court relates to the period after the separation. The plaintiff
was very candid about her character in her evidence. She admitted
suffering from temporal lobe epilepsy and that before the diagnosis
and treatment she was of violent disposition. She also admitted
having smoked dagga about four (4) times during the marriage, just
for fun, with the defendant, and denied that it was in copius
quantity or that she still smokes dagga. She admitted having been
convicted of assault after she had beaten up Tamara Forbes for her
adulterous affair with the defendant and that she has fought the
defendant several times….,.
The
plaintiff described the defendant's character as a swinging
pendulum, at one time loving and caring but at other times a monster
to her….,.
The
defendant, while blaming the plaintiff for the breakdown of the
marriage between the parties, conceded that reconciliation is not
possible. The defendant accepted that he has been in an adulterous
relationship with Tamara Forbes although he says since 2010 and only
became intimate in 2011.
The
plaintiff said this relationship started in 2009 and was the main
cause of the breakdown of the marriage relationship between the
parties. The defendant told the court that he now wants to marry
Tamara Forbes.
It
is clear that the marriage relationship between the parties has
broken down to such an extent that there is no reasonable prospect of
the restoration of the normal marital relationship. As was stated in
Ncube v Ncube 1993 (1) ZLR 39 where parties are agreed that the
marriage relationship cannot be salvaged and are consenting to
divorce it is not necessary for the court to hear evidence in that
regard in order to ascribe fault for the breakdown of the marriage. I
am inclined, in this case, to grant a decree of divorce as provided
for in section 5(1) of the Matrimonial Causes Act [Chapter 5:13]….,.
1.
A decree of divorce be and is hereby granted.